In the fire station, you basically live a third of your life with your coworkers. It’s like another family, only with a very serious job to do. You make life-and-death decisions together, rely on each other completely and trust that every person on your crew will do their part.
And sometimes, they don’t.
Maybe someone freezes under pressure or can’t keep up with the demands of the job. Those are the hardest moments, when you like someone personally but have to face the fact that they’re not cut out for this line of work. Compassion tells you to help them. Accountability tells you to protect the team and the public first.
I’ve sat across from people I respected deeply and told them it wasn’t working out. That’s not cruelty. That’s leadership. The hardest part of command isn’t the fire. It’s the conversation that happens afterward, when you must balance empathy for the person in front of you with your responsibility to the people depending on you.
That’s where I first learned the balance between compassion and accountability, a balance that applies just as much in public service as it does in a burning building.
When compassion lacks accountability
We see this imbalance in public policy, too. Accountability becomes hard to ensure when decisions are handed off to special interest groups or advisory bodies that mean well but aren’t responsible for outcomes.
There has been a major and important push for inclusivity in policymaking in recent years. That matters. It’s Important. Everyone deserves a seat at the table. But we also have to remember: a seat at the table comes with responsibility for the meal that’s served.
Good intentions don’t always translate into good policy. I’ve seen this firsthand, even currently with Olympia’s Proposition 1 (also known as Worker’s Bill of Rights), well-meaning proposals filled with moral ambition but lacking practical safeguards. Those who back these projects genuinely want to help, but the unintended consequences hurt the very people they aim to help. That’s compassion without accountability, and it leads to chaos.
We see this clearly in our housing policies. Huge amounts of money are poured into low-income housing, but the data and experts tell us we need housing at every level, especially at the upper end of the spectrum. Starter homes already exist, but no one is moving up and out of them. That causes compression and leaves the next generation with nowhere to start.
At a recent real estate forum, a housing developer said, “With the rising costs of land, infrastructure, and energy code requirements, building a single-family home for under $500,000 is next to impossible.” Those costs can be absorbed into a million-dollar home, but not a starter home.
We won’t solve the housing crisis through public dollars alone. We must create space for private development too, with policies that support homes at every level, encourage infill development, and revisit code barriers that make entry-level housing cost-prohibitive.
Without accountability, compassion-driven policies can spiral out of control and fail the very people they’re meant to help.
When accountability lacks compassion
But the opposite is just as dangerous. When accountability is enforced without compassion, it turns into cruelty.
That’s what happened during the Bear Gulch Fire.